Get Over It!

December 13th, 2008
The people on the  Television Without Pity boards are reviewing the “no holds barred” interview with Britney Spears. The consensus seems to be that at the age of 27 she is unable to take responsibility for her actions and continues to blame others. Understandably being the family’s cash cow has contributed to this issue, but I started wondering, when do people stop taking responsibility for their actions and instead are oh so willing to point the finger at anyone but themselves?I know at times I have been quick to find someone else to blame for problems, and I will probably do it again. Lately I have been thinking of a quote my mother used to constantly repeat in my adolescence, “when you blame others, you give up the power to change.” Four years safely distanced from my teenaged self I can most definitely say I agree with this, however I start wonder about people who have a fear of change. I think back to Buffy Becoming(part 1) when Whistler states, “no one asks for their life to change, not really. But it does.” There are times when I can identify with this idea, because I actually look forward to finding a routine once my life has been interrupted. At the same time there have been moments when I have willingly plotted out how I wanted my life to transform and took steps towards making that leap. But I digress; I can’t help but feel that perhaps this whole fear of change leads us to blame others. Maybe we aren’t really ready to see the changes in ourselves; maybe we’re afraid to get to know who we really are without an identifying factor in our lives. If this is true, are we so willing to be so unaware of who we really are? Perhaps, we will never be comfortable with our weaknesses and misguided judgments and find it easier to look elsewhere. Even when we see ourselves as victims in situations, is it possible that we found something that we didn’t like, and might have in fact disturbed us? Are we ever really blameless? Maybe it doesn’t really matter if we are.

In the end Whistler is right, those “moments are gonna come, you can’t help that. It’s what you do afterwards that counts. That’s when you find out who you are.” So who are we?


4 thoughts on “Get Over It!

    1. Agreed Jenny. I think it’s so easy to play the victim in situations but the result is actually never learning anything and moving beyond. It takes a lot to examine what you, yourself does wrong and how it effects other people.
      You’re right about love, it’s what helps us push through.

  1. Love this Maris. So true that we get into our comfort zones and are afraid to step out into the unknown. Also, we spend our energy trying to please others.

    1. It’s kind of weird how we decide when we’re willing to get out of our comfort zone vs when we’re pushed out. It’s just as nerve-wracking knowing you’re going to actively make a change and then finding yourself in the middle of and uncomfortable situation.

      I agree about being a people pleaser, and I think we all have our limits. I get pushed to the point where I eventually give up on not only trying to please the person, but on the person in general

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